The word "judge" makes the majority of people put their guard up. What you could be indicating is that I am wrong or doing wrong. That word actually causes one to stay in situations or engage in new situations that are not the best choice. We often say, "I don't want to be judgemental". Or, "who am I to judge because I went through the same thing". When you are choosing your mate, judging is no longer a bad word. You are judging the behavior to now be one that is conducive to your future plans. You are not judging the person as "wrong in life", just wrong for your vision. You have to be okay with that even if the other party is offended by your call.
I have had men to get almost ugly with me because I chose not to date them because of the many children, lack of drive, foul mouth, living at home with mom, gluttony, always depressed, etc. <--- Does any of that sound sexy to you? No matter how offended they felt, I stayed true to thine-self. Besides only "a hit dog will holler".
Recently, at "hello", I had someone explain they were and independent contractor for an insurance company but they are looking for something else. He voluntarily said, "I need more income". There is absolutely nothing wrong with that. Because he is a gentleman, easy spirit, self controlled and many more, most women would feel like....hmmm, I can date him. I am a natural visionary. I get downloads of data instantly as if my brain were a computer. What I heard was, I am in between financial manifestations and I might be able to take you out once a month. When I take you out, even though I might not use a coupon, I should. He is also stating that house dating is the only way for him to go right now....so your place or mine? Now, if he is trying to "win" you, he may sacrifice bill money and go in debt trying to land you. <---Is that what your "knight in shining armor" would do? Pretend he is winning and is actually in financial disaster instead? That entire scenario is a setup for disaster.
So, I asked him a question. Do you believe this is the opportune time for you to date, ya know, while you are in between 2 manifestations? His response: Oh yeah, because sometimes a woman can be there for you and help you through emotionally tough times. Screeeeeech! I'd rather hear chalk on a board! I explained to him that his scenario is only if you are in a relationship and you fell down. You do not want to meet a man/woman who is down and they need you to doctor them, emotionally or financially. This topic is tough for me to write about because it truly upsets me that people think they are ready to date and add someone to the world when there is nothing in their world but work!
If you have done the work on yourself, you have a right to receive someone that has done their "self" work as well. If you have more work to do in order to balance yourself out, sit yo tail down and get your house in order! Once you have compose yourself, invite someone in your life that you can be an asset to and they can be an asset to you as well. If you are focusing on how you can add to someone else's life and you are in position to "add to".....you should accept the same in return. You, the individual, are nobody's savior. Jesus has that covered. Happy dating!
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