I am aware that relationships are challenges and marriages are more than a full time job. Even when you are at work, you can't help but to consider the issues at home. I understand that people who have been married for many years have evolved and are no longer the same person as the day they got married. I get it. Unfortunately, who you wanted or needed at 20 years old will not be the same as what you need or want at 50. So, what do you do? The only thing I can suggest is "to thine self, be true".
What I don't understand, is the rationalization of many people when they encounter a married individual. So, you meet an individual that says they are married but they have problems at home. They mention it so casually as if the problem isn't them at all. So now, they expect to be in the running amongst other single people. Part time relationships but full time emotion....puh-leeeeze! When you entertain this option, the married person's misery becomes your obligation now. Is that okay for you? You don't mind carrying their mate's torch? The phrase "I am married but..." is a trap for individuals who do not have a good sense of who they are. We all deal with esteem issues from time to time. However, if you are entertaining being someone's last priority, you have a low opinion of your worth. I would even dare to say, you have an identity crisis.
Be encouraged that you can have a mate that cares and nurtures you. You don't have to share mate. Besides, the spiritual price that you will pay just isn't worth it. It's better to remain single and keep living.
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